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Practically everyone has struggled with strong emotions at some time during their lives. Emotional turmoil often accompanies life events like divorce, serious illness, or long-term unemployment. For some people, however, emotional suffering can feel constant and overwhelming, because their emotions are particularly intense and difficult to manage. Attempts to escape such emotional pain can lead to failed relationships, addictions, even suicide.Learning to tolerate emotional pain until it passes is very difficult and requires tremendous courage and will. But courage and will alone cannot take one from emotional turmoil to emotional acceptance, or from chaotic behavior to effective behavior. Such change requires complex skills. Luckily, such skills can be learned!
I knew most of my clients would not be able to sit in meditation, at least not at first. They needed simple, concrete tools that could help them take control of their attention enough to learn other skills they desperately needed to master. With the help of my teacher, Willigis Jager, Roshi, I attempted to distill the essence of Zen into tools for highly emotional people. The result was the seven mindfulness skills of DBT. The mindfulness skills allow us to focus attention in the moment in order to recognize that we have a choice about how to proceed
Since I developed DBT, mindfulness has become a valued part of many other psychotherapies. As Cedar Koons mentions in this book, studies have been published that demonstrate the value of mindfulness practice in the treatment of chronic pain, depression, substance abuse, post-traumatic stress disorder, couples therapy, and more. Neurobiologists have found lasting changes in the structure of the brain related to mindfulness practice. While the research to determine what part mindfulness plays in DBT’s overall effectiveness has not yet been done, I continue to suspect.
Have you ever been swept up in powerful emotions that prompted you to do things that damaged your relationships or caused you to feel overwhelmed and lost? Have you often regretted emotional behavior or felt that it cost you your self-respect? Have you thrown away your dreams and acted against your deeply held beliefs because of being emotionally out of control?Most people, at one time or another, have done things they regret under the influence of emotion. But if you feel that you constantly go from one crisis to another because of your emotions, and you want to change, this book is written for you. The mindfulness skills taught here can help you find shelter from the devastation caused by powerful, out-of-control emotions so you can ride out the storm without being harmed. Instead of being swept away, you can take shelter in your own strength and intention through mindfulness.
In DBT, mindfulness is broken down into specific skills that can be learned, even by people in emotional turmoil. These concrete skills can help highly emotional people take control of their attention so they can focus on making better choices (Linehan 1993a). I saw that I could use these skills to teach others some of what I had gained from years of meditation and mindfulness practice.At first I was doubtful about how people who experienced intense, difficult-to-manage emotions—a problem called pervasive emotion dysregulation—would be able to focus long enough to use the skills. I knew how difficult it was to take control of my attention even when I wasn’t emotional. But I also knew that learning to take control of one’s attention in the moment was
I learned not only that people with emotion dysregulation can learn these skills, but that they can use them to transform their lives. Over the past twenty years I have applied DBT as an individual therapist, skills trainer, and team leader, and have been the principal investigator on research studies of DBT. I have also trained and consulted with numerous teams providing DBT treatment to adults and adolescents in outpatient, inpatient, and residential treatment, and in forensic and juvenile justice settings. These experiences have confirmed my belief that mindfulness skills are crucial to recovery from emotion dysregulation and BPD.
It has been my experience that the dedicated practice of these skills can promote recovery from emotional suffering, even suffering that has persisted for years. I hope that this book will make the DBT mindfulness skills accessible to you so that you too can find the here-and-now solution for intense emotions.
Do you find that your emotions often cause problems for you, especially in your relationships? Have people consistently told you that you are too sensitive? Do emotions interfere with your thinking? Because of your emotions and emotional behavior do you ever wonder who you really are? When you feel negative emotions, are the sensations in your body so strong and unpleasant that sometimes you feel you would do anything to make the sensations go away—even hurt yourself? Do strong emotions hang around for days, even weeks, making you feel bad? Have emotional situations made you wish you were dead?If you answered yes to many of these questions, chances are you experience pervasive emotion dysregulation. This means your sensitive nature is difficult to manage, and this difficulty negatively affects the overall quality of your life.
1. Frantic efforts to avoid being or feeling abandoned by loved ones.2. Instability in relationships, including a tendency to idealize and then become disillusioned with relationships.3. Problems with an unstable sense of self, self-image, or identity.4. Impulsivity in at least two areas (other than suicidal behavior) that are potentially damaging, such as excessive spending, risky sex, substance abuse, or binge eating.5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, including thoughts, attempts, or threats of suicide, as well as intentional self-harm that may or may not be life-threatening.6. Mood swings, including intense negative mood, irritability, and anxiety. Moods usually last a few hours and rarely more tha
To understand BPD better, it is helpful to know a few demographic facts. For example, 75 percent of people diagnosed with BPD are female, and up to 75 percent of people with BPD intentionally harm themselves at least once during their lifetime. About 10 percent of people with BPD actually kill themselves. Because of their suicidal tendencies, people with BPD make up about 20 percent of patients in psychiatric hospitals, even though they account for only about 2 percent of the national population (Gunderson 2009).Also, people with BPD are statistically very likely to have additional accompanying problems, called comorbidities. The most common accompanying problems are major depression, panic disorder, PTSD, and substance use disorders (Bisk
and Paris 2013). The accompanying problems can complicate treatment, as the problems tend to be interrelated and to interact with each other in ways that can make treatment more difficult (Eaton et al. 2010). For example, if you have depression in addition to BPD, the depression may make the BPD problems more prominent and the BPD may make the depression harder to resolve. What statistics cannot show is that regardless of stereotypes, people with BPD look very different from one another (Paris 1993). What they all have in common is the experience of severe emotional distress and difficulty managing emotions.
